I got kinda passionate with this one so please consider this language warning before reading on...
I think this week alone I have either been told personally, read on Instagram or overheard a woman get SO PUMPED because... "GUESS WHAT?! IN TWO WEEKS I'VE DROPPED OVER 2 KG!"
@everyday.fifo.wife - You were my last straw mate. Sorry, but SMASH YO' DAMN SCALES. Your IG story sent me over the edge to write this post and you're leading from affront. NO MORE WEIGHT.
*Find her on Instragram - She literallly smashed her scales! #best
LADIES - LISTEN UP!
YOUR WORTH, YOUR HEALTH, YOUR FITNESS, YOUR INTELLIGENCE, YOUR ABILITY TO BE A GOOD MOTHER, WIFE OR FRIEND IS NOT DETERMINED BY THE FUCKING NUMBER ON A SCALES!
Your relationship with gravity says ZERO about your health. Isn't that what we should really be measuring? Health?
Haveeee ya heard of skinny fat? Yeah. It's a thing. Just coz Sally weighs 55 kg, does that mean she's healthy? Fuck no. Sally eats a shitty diet, smokes cigarettes, parties every weekend and does zero exercise. Guess what? Sally is at a MUCH higher risk of developing osteoarthritis, heart disease and lung cancer than someone like Betty; 85 kg, trains, eats well - just a bit too much, walks daily with her daughter to hit those 10 000 steps too.
C'mon man. I'm sick of seeing women's eyes light up when they think they did good by losing two kg's in two weeks. The number on the scales is something you have NO CONTROL over so why are you pumped for "achieving" something that you couldn't truly influence? Show me you trained 4 days this week instead of 2. Show me you ate more fruit and veges. Show me you climbed a mountain on the weekend instead of lounged around all day. THAT'S the shit that matters. That is what is going to propel you towards a longer, healthy and happy life.
TRAINERS - Could you do me a solid and stop giving your clients weight loss goals? What happens once they reach that goal? Then what? Want them to drop more? And more? What happens when the number goes back up but they didn't even do "anything bad?"
That's where giving up comes from my friends.
Try and give them performance/lifestyle related goals. I'll give you some free examples. (You can thank me later for better client retention.)
- Increase steps each day by 200 - 500. (To eventually hit & be consistent with 10 000)
- Get them to record their food for a week. Review and set them a challenge to eat MORE (not less, hello better relationship with food!) veges and fruit!
- Find them a big, scary, long term goal in the gym that they have to work consistently towards - a strict pull up, muscle up, push up, etc. Something strength related that would be easier if they were lighter. Do you know what it's like practicing pull ups everyday when you're 20 kg "overweight"? It's not fun. And you want to do everything in your day to day to be stronger. And LIGHTER.
Can we, as role models for the next generation, promise to please stop celebrating weight loss numbers?
Take photos, record your performance and go by feel.
I'll say it again and repeat after me;
YOUR WORTH IS NOT WHAT YOU WEIGH!!!
Please share. Coz I'm sad scales are still a thing. Thank you. xx